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Divorce Selfies

August 28th, 2014

Chris Gayomali reports that, shortly after their divorce, Keith Hinson and Michelle Knight of Florida took a picture of themselves, smiling and holding their divorce decree outside the courtroom.

They posted it to Instagram with the caption, “We are officially un-married. Here’s to the most friendly, respectful, and loving split imaginable. We smile not because it’s over, but because it happened.”

This will probabaly start a new trend of divorce selfies.

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Four Prescriptions for a Happy Marriage

August 27th, 2014

John Gottman says there are just four prescriptions for a happy marriage:

  1. Turn toward your partner (both physically and psychologically).
  2. Say positive things.
  3. Celebrate the hard times you’ve been through.
  4. Look at the Goldfinch (look if your partner says there’s a Goldfinch in the backyard).

The good thing is that these simple steps are within your control.  They are not hard to define like a “spark” or “that special something.”

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Want a Divorce? Maybe You’re Just Hungry

August 7th, 2014

Boca Divorce Attorney Jodi Furr Colton brought my attention to a Psychology Today study that correlates heightened aggression between spouses with their blood sugar.

The researchers gave 107 married couples voodoo dolls and pins for 21 days.  They were told to place as many pins in the doll as needed each night depending on how angry they were with their spouse.  They also blasted each other with noises through headphones while completing assigned taskes.  Their blood glucose levels were monitored.

It appears that the lower your blood sugar, the more hostile and cranky you are.  Others are more irritating to you and you are more irritating to others.  So if you and your spouse are getting on each other’s nerves, try eating some food.

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Send in the Divorce Lawyers

August 6th, 2014

Greta Van Susteren has an idea for breaking the political deadlock in Congress.  On Gretawire she writes that every day of the year divorce lawyers sit down with warring spouses (who HATE each other) and manage to hammer out agreements.

She says it is not that hard to get people to work out solutions. All it takes is effort and perseverance.  She says divorce lawyers can do it so why can’t politicians.

Van Suteren’s message to Congress?  “Get to work!  Sit down and talk…figure it out!”  Maybe we should send some divorce lawyers to help Congress figure it out.

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Contribution to Mortgage Payments

August 5th, 2014

Roger Broseus, Ph.D. married Isadel Broseus in 1970.  They had a child in 1981.  They jointly owned a three-bedroom house in Gaithersburg.  In 1985 Roger took the minor child and left the martial home.  He obtained custody of the child and use and possession of the family home and moved back in.  Isadel was forced to leave and rent an efficiency apartment.  Her car was repossessed for failure to make payments.

Roger made the mortgage payments on the house during the four years between separation and divorce.  Roger asked the court to order isadel to reimburse him for a portion of these payments claiming the right of contribution.

The trial court denied his claim and the Maryland Court of Special Appeals affirmed, for these reasons:

  1. Roger’s payments on the house were for the support of his wife and child.
  2. He had the use of the premises without having to pay rent.
  3. He took the tax deductions for the house.
  4. It was unreasonable for him to believe his wife would be able to contribute in view of her financial situation.
  5. Most importantly, he used his income to make the payments, which income was martial property.

The court said contribution is not a matter of right and is within the sound discretion of the trial court.

Broesus v. Broseus 370 A2d 874 (Md.App. 1970)

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The Morning of Trial

July 25th, 2014

The morning of the divorce trial, lawyer Fred Holmes, woke up at 5:00 am without an alarm clock.

He stumbled downstairs to feed the cat and the fish.

He put away the dishes from the dishwasher, fixed himself a bowl of Honey Nut Cheerios, and added some fresh blueberries and skim milk.  He made a fresh cup of coffee with the Netpresso machine and poured in some Amaretto flavored cream.

He flicked on the tv to watch the morning news while he ate his breakfast.  The international situation was desperate as usual.

Then he did 15 minutes of P90X Plyometrics and 100 pushups in sets of 25 with a few minutes rest between each set.

After a shower and shave, he picked out a white shirt, red power tie, and his best grey suit.

He drove to the office.  He polished his shoes to a high black gloss.  He threw his pen, phone, yellow legal pad and files into his litigation bag.  Then he drove to the courthouse.

The judge asked, “Is Counsel ready for trial?”

Fred said, “Ready, Your Honor.”

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Spurious Correlations

July 8th, 2014

I read today that heavy use of social media correlates well with the divorce rate.  I’m thinking is it social media that creates marital difficulty or is it people who are in unhappy marriages spend more time on social media?  Which is the cause and which is the effect?

Statisticians say that correlation does not imply causation.  Tyler Vigen, a Harvard Law student, posts daily graphs at Spurious Correlations that show some interesting relationships between random data.

For example the more lawyers there are in Virginia, the lower the number of divorces becomes. And the divorce rate in Maine closely matches the graph for the consumption of Margarine there.

You can also use the generator at the site to make your own spurious correlations.

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Facebook Predicts Which Relationships Will Last

July 7th, 2014

Facebook has developed an algorithm that predicts whether your relationship will last or not. Researchers looked at 1.3 million Facebook users to determine their “dispersion”.

Dispersion is the extent of overlap in two people’s mutual friends. If you have high dispersion, you each have your own set of friends. Low dispersion means your friends are friends with one another.

High dispersion relationships are likely to last, but low dispersion relationships tended to be over in about two months. The conclusion is that you are more likely to have a strong relationship if you each maintain your own separate circle of friends.

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Social Media Prenups

June 25th, 2014

Prenuptial agreements, and postnuptial agreements, are used to determine financial aspects of a marriage or divorce.  But you can also add lifestyle clauses to deal with non-financial matters as well.  The Weinberger Law Group suggests a social media clause.

A social media prenup clause would provide that neither party would put any negative, disparaging, embarrassing, insulting or unflattering content on Facebook, Twitter or other social media.  You might agree not to post photos of the children or anything about family finances.  Some couples agree they will not post anything about each other on social media in the event of divorce.

Something to think about in the wired world we live in.

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Persuasion by Silence

June 6th, 2014

Silence can be useful in negotiations.

Someone once said what I didn’t say in my letters was more important than what I did say. They were obviously reading my silent message in the blanks between the lines.

Here is a good example of how to use silence from David Mamet’s play, Glenngary Glen Ross:

LEVINE

Now I handed

them the pen. I held it in my hand.

I turned the contract, eight units

eighty-two grand. “Now I want you

to sign.”

(pause)

I sat there. Five minutes. Then,

I sat there, Ricky, twenty-two

minutes by the kitchen clock.

(pause)

Twenty-two minutes by the kitchen

clock. Not a word, not a motion.

I have seen clients reject reasonable proposals, not for the message, but for the way in which the message is delivered.  It is better if you can help the other side, opposing counsel, a judge or a jury come to the right conclusion on their own rather than telling them what it is. These limericks will show you what I mean.

“There once was a poet from Peru,

Whose limericks ended at line two.”

“There once was a poet from Verdun…”

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