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Archive for February, 2011

How to Fight

Friday, February 25th, 2011

Researchers at the University of Michigan report that how you fight in the first year of marriage can predict how likely you are to be divorced.  The researchers found that fighting styles broke down into three categories:

  1. destructive (yelling and screaming)
  2. withdrawal (keeping quiet or leaving), and
  3. constructive (trying to solve the problem calmly).

Destructive conflict most often led to divorce.  Couples where one partner fought constructively but the other withdrew also had a high rate of divorce.

One of the researchers, Kira Birditt, said, “I think it’s important to try to work together to constructively solve problems. The closer you are, the more problems you have but you have to be really careful about how you deal with it when you have them. You should think before you react and try to say things calmly when you’re upset and it’s better to talk about problems than to avoid them or to scream or yell.”

The Exercise Divorce

Thursday, February 24th, 2011

Excessive exercise may be hazardous to your marriage, says Kevin Helliker in a Wall Street Journal article.  Jordan Waxman, 46, is a bank executive at Merrill Lynch and an Ironman triathlete.  His works out early in the mornings leaving a note for his wife and kids.

Caren Waxman, his wife, says she wakes up alone every morning.  She is an exercise widow.  Mr. Waxman arrives home from the office after the children have eaten dinner and he beats them to bed.

While couples vow to stay together in sickness and health, it may be a surprise when one of them decides to spend an obsessive amount of time at the gym, on a treadmill or running the streets.  The out-of-shape partner may find this to be an irreconcilable difference.

One way to solve this problem is for both spouses to work out together.  And some spouses are able to give each other free time to pursue whatever activities they want, whether it is exercise or being a couch potato.

Maryland Bill Seeks to Shorten Separation Periods

Monday, February 21st, 2011

A bill to shorten the separation periods for the no fault grounds for absolute divorce in Maryland has been introduced by Senator Zirkin.

Senate Bill 139 would amend Section 7-103(a)(3) and (4) of the Family Law Article by changing the separation period for a voluntary separation from 12 months to 6 months and the separation period for an involuntary separation from 2 years to 12 months.  If passed, the law would take effect October 1, 2011.

However, similar bills have been introduced in past years, and have been defeated by lawmakers who believe that marriage should be encouraged and divorce should not be easier to obtain.  Having a longer waiting period discourages impulsive divorces and gives people time to change their minds or make up their minds that they really want a divorce.

Under current Maryland law, you can still get divorced without any waiting period for the fault grounds of adultery or cruelty. You can also enter into a separation agreement.

Both Virginia and DC permit a no-fault divorce after six months voluntary separation or one year involuntary separation.  In Virginia and DC, the separation can be while living in the same house.  Maryland courts have ruled each spouse must live under a separate roof during the separation.

Happy Valentine’s Day or Maybe Not

Monday, February 14th, 2011, the attorney rating site, reports that divorces skyrocket after Valentine’s Day.

Attorney Kelly Chang attributes this to two groups of people.  The first are people who made a New Year’s resolution to get divorced and are just now getting around to it.  The second are people who are waiting to see how their spouse acts on Valentine’s Day and will either reconcile or divorce.

Divorce lawyer Cary Chefetz says some people are just waiting until they know what ther spouse’s bonus and income situation will be in the New Year.

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