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Archive for September, 2012

Male or Female Divorce Lawyer?

Wednesday, September 26th, 2012

Should gender play a role in deciding to hire a divorce attorney?  If you are a woman, do you want a male or female attorney and vice versa?  Does it make a difference if the judge in your case is male or female?

I like to have both in my law firm because I do believe men and women think differently.  As one women lawyer told me, men think like a ladder, women think like a wheel.  When you get different perspectives on problems, that can lead to better  solutions.

Today, women make up 50% of law school classes.  There were only five women in my law school class of 200.  Of those five, one became the chief judge of the highest court in the state and another became secretary of the state.

I remember a female attorney and I were in a meeting with a prospective female client once.  I am usually pretty laid back.  I try not to make promises I can’t keep.  I prefer to underpromise and overperform.  That way I can be the hero if the case happens to go my way.  The women attorney, however, was full of energy.  She was shocked that the woman’s husband treated her badly and she promised to hit him where it hurts (his wallet).  Naturally, after the meeting, the client said, “I want her to be my lawyer.”

To answer my first question, I think it is more important to get a good lawyer than a lawyer of a specific gender.  By good lawyer, I mean one who can attack their work for your case, meet deadlines, and return your calls.  Some good lawyers are men and some are women.

How Overwork Can Lead to Divorce

Tuesday, September 25th, 2012

Guest Post by Nancy Tran*

In today’s modern economy, the demands of many people’s jobs can be overwhelming. Whether it’s an advertising professional working day and night to ensure that their client presentation is perfect, a software developer spending long hours trying to find the bug in their system, or a teacher with piles of homework to grade, long hours of work can take a toll on nearly every aspect of an individual’s life, including their personal relationships.

Increasingly, many marriages in the United States are suffering under the strains of overwork, with too many hours at the office leaving little time to nurture a marital relationship. In some cases, this may eventually lead to a married couple deciding that their relationship can no longer meet the needs of both individuals. In this case, it may be necessary to pursue a divorce.

How Work Can Strain a Marriage

There are a number of different ways in which too many hours spent focused on work can damage a relationship. The following are some of the most common complaints relating to work and marriage:

  • Too much time spent away from one’s spouse
  • Stress from work leading to arguments and conflict
  • Frequent traveling resulting in alienation

These and other problems associated with overwork can unfortunately damage a relationship significantly, sometimes beyond repair. In these situations, it may be best to consider the prospect of divorce. You should contact a divorce lawyer to discuss the details of your case and learn more about what you could expect in a settlement.


*  Nancy Tran is a full-time blogger with a wide variety of interests such as writing, reporting on legal news, and keeping up with technology trends. She regularly contributes to legal sites such as

Postnuptial Agreements

Tuesday, September 18th, 2012

A postnuptial agreement is just like a prenuptial agreement only it is made after the wedding.  The parties may agree in writing after their marriage who gets what in the event of a divorce and the courts will enforce that agreement.

Section 8-101(a) of the Maryland Family Law Article says “A husband and wife may make a valid and enforceable deed or agreement that relates to alimony, support, property rights or personal rights.”

There are many reasons for a postnuptial agreement.  Spouses may have run out of time to negotiate or execute a prenuptial agreement before they got married.  They want to amend their prenup.  Or they may want to have financial certainty in the event of a possible divorce.

When you think about it, separation agreements and marital settlement agreements are actually postnuptial agreements although they are not titled that way.

Tilting at Windmills

Wednesday, September 12th, 2012

don.quixoteFormer football star Chad Johnson is in the news for refusing to participate in the divorce filed in Florida by his wife, Evelyn Lozada.  He won’t sign divorce papers or appear in court.

Instead he is trying to win back his wife.  Since his arrest for domestic violence in August, Johnson has apologized publicly, tweeted his affection for his wife and had her face tattooed on his leg.

This sounds pretty heroic, but it may be more like Don Quixote tilting at windmills.  When a spouse has taken the drastic action of filing a lawsuit for divorce, it is usually too late to change her mind.  Lozada doesn’t appear to be interested in reconciling.  And the court doesn’t need Johnson to be grant a divorce.

We all have the need for love and the need to control our surroundings.  Johnson needs to accept the premise that he cannot control this situation.  This takes time.  Lozada and her lawyers might be rushing him.

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