Comments on: Fighting Fire with Fire http://mddivorcelawyers.com/legalcrier/divorce/fighting-fire-with-fire News and comments about divorce, child support, child custody, alimony, equitable property distribution, father's rights, mother's rights, family law, laws on divorce and other legal information in Maryland. Wed, 16 May 2012 16:23:59 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Maggie http://mddivorcelawyers.com/legalcrier/divorce/fighting-fire-with-fire/comment-page-1#comment-38 Maggie Mon, 11 Jun 2007 17:20:00 +0000 http://mddivorcelawyers.com/legalcrier/?p=114#comment-38 I totally agree; this happened with my divorce. We were in mediation and everything was amicable and we were each going to retain a lawyer just to eyeball the separation agreement and make sure everything was ok. He hooked up with a notorious shark, a guy who, as my lawyer put it "turns a simple mediation into a $50,000 divorce case" and the guy tried to do exactly that. All the sudden my formerly non-confrontational ex was totally aggressive and horrible, threatening a big custody case out of nowhere. My lawyer advised me to just throw some money at the ex--she said it would cost me $20,000+ to fight a custody case so the best thing to do was try to just avert the whole thing by offering to just give him that money. It worked and, as bitter as I sometimes am about what I gave up--I ended up getting WAY less than I was entitled to--it was still worth it to me to have spared my kids the ordeal of a custody case. It did end up costing me as much as the custody case would have cost, but it did the trick and let me settle the divorce on my own terms instead of the terms of the shark. I totally agree; this happened with my divorce. We were in mediation and everything was amicable and we were each going to retain a lawyer just to eyeball the separation agreement and make sure everything was ok. He hooked up with a notorious shark, a guy who, as my lawyer put it “turns a simple mediation into a $50,000 divorce case” and the guy tried to do exactly that. All the sudden my formerly non-confrontational ex was totally aggressive and horrible, threatening a big custody case out of nowhere. My lawyer advised me to just throw some money at the ex–she said it would cost me $20,000+ to fight a custody case so the best thing to do was try to just avert the whole thing by offering to just give him that money. It worked and, as bitter as I sometimes am about what I gave up–I ended up getting WAY less than I was entitled to–it was still worth it to me to have spared my kids the ordeal of a custody case. It did end up costing me as much as the custody case would have cost, but it did the trick and let me settle the divorce on my own terms instead of the terms of the shark.

]]> By: Stephen Worrall http://mddivorcelawyers.com/legalcrier/divorce/fighting-fire-with-fire/comment-page-1#comment-33 Stephen Worrall Fri, 06 Apr 2007 19:04:00 +0000 http://mddivorcelawyers.com/legalcrier/?p=114#comment-33 Great post and a good lesson for our clients! I have posted your article on mt Georgia Family Law Blog at http://sworrall.typepad.com/<br/><br/>Steve Worrall<br/>http://georgiafamilylaw.com Great post and a good lesson for our clients! I have posted your article on mt Georgia Family Law Blog at http://sworrall.typepad.com/

Steve Worrall
http://georgiafamilylaw.com

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